Last week I went to the gym. I got through the door and everything was just the same. The same as yesterday, the same as the week before. Everything was at its place- as it always is. But the thing was that I was not the same. Probably I was too tired. Or maybe I have allowed my thoughts to conquer my mind. Anyway, it doesn’t matter what was the reason, but the truth was that I was not truly there. My body was present, but my soul was absent.
I headed to the bar. We’ve met before a thousand times. And I’ve won over it a thousand times. I’ve been there so many times and I have managed to concentrate, to challenge myself and prove myself that I can and that I am capable of much more, than I or somebody else think I could achieve.
But not on that day. Not at that moment. I have given up, even before I have tried.
Then, I once again remembered that READ MORE
I love observing people, as well as myself and then analyze their behavior and my own behavior.
And my observations made me realize how often people’s actions are led by the wrong motives. Usually a main driving source of our behavior is how we’d like others to perceive us.
We build some kind of an ego image, which has a different “clothing” depending on the community surrounding us and each thought, each action we take is directed at defending this ego image.
We build an image, which is more of a personification of common norms and knowledge. An impersonation of the common sense for how we are supposed to live, which qualities we should possess and how we should express them.
And no matter if this ego image is READ MORE
1.The cherry picking of clients
In case you do not understand what I mean, what I am trying to say is that I hate how most personal trainers cherry pick their clients and somehow discriminate people according to their appearance and their fitness level. You’ve probably noticed the trend, people, who are out of shape, people who have never worked out to be neglected by personal trainers. Instead PTs choose advanced trainees, such that are already in some dissent shape.
I suspect that the reason about this is the fact, that when the person you coach is obviously in good shape, those around you will make the assumption that you are the one who helped him achieve this level of athletics. And that would mean better publicity for your business. But are you serious? Is that the meaning of being a coach? To feed your egocentric personality with somebody else’s achievements and neglect people who obviously have potential but still need to work hard, until they reach to a point, where their potential will be obvious for their surrounding as well.
For me being a coach is READ MORE
“He was able to hear “no” a thousand times and still keep on communicating with himself in a way, that could sustain his desire to keep knocking on the next door, completely convinced that this time he might get a positive answer.”- Antony Robins
People often tell me that they envy my confidence. They say that if they were me, probably they would have reached their goals and they could live a life they actually loved.
Every time I hear this, it makes me smile… not because I am too self confident, but because READ MORE
Every day I get the opportunity to meet a lot of people. I get the chance to eyewitness some of their most meaningful moments. The moments when they challenge themselves, when they overcome their fears, reveal their potential, discover their purpose and achieve triumph.
The moments, when their mind can’t handle it and they break down. The moments when they lose faith in their abilities and when they doubt their actions. The moments of egocentrism or the moments of humility. Moments of courage or fear. Moments of action or lack of it. The moments when they get closer to their true self… or the moments when they alienate and run away from their self.
I love observing people. How often do you catch yourself carefully watching the actions of others, analyzing them and searching the reason behind their behavior? At first sight most people act the same way, but in reality all of them have different motives.
You can’t imagine how much READ MORE
Don’t read it, because it will be too painful to realize that you are the one responsible for your life and that everything taking place in your reality is your own fault!
…because our unconsciousness is the trash can of our conscious…
Something like the place where goes the rubbish of what occupies our mind the most!
Where our most obtrusive thought undresses and slips its identity…
And too busy to capture it we allow it to carry away what truly matters.
While we are sitting in the present moment, torturing to find out the answer we are desperately searching for…
And the answer, just like our precious item, that we accidentally threw in the trash can, is resting in our unconscious, waiting for the right moment to materialize itself…
Here I remember the fact that we rarely realize, that exactly the invisible future, and not what we’ve already seen in our READ MORE
Nowadays people constantly focus on their problems. They search for them everywhere, but somehow forget to pay attention to their main problem and thus they miss the opportunity to get rid of it. And what is the main problem? Illusion! Illusion is the most secure solace and probably this is the reason why people turn to it. But a life build on the foundations of illusion, just carries the fake feeling of security, and in reality this is the most treacherous, fleeting and unstable way to live.
Illusion twists our minds, it takes our focus away from accepting reality just the way it is and fixates our attention on a steady image. Illusion is a static image, and the essence of life is in its constant change…in its dynamics.
Why do we so persistently get stick into the notion of illusion? Isn’t the reason in the fact that READ MORE
„No matter what I write, the true meaning is left somewhere beyond the ink, beyond the limitations of the paper.”- Yana Kremenska
She was walking on the dark alleys in the park. She was alone and somebody on her place would be afraid of the silence, the fears that were stalking behind the bushes, of the bareness, which “inhabit” the surroundings. But what could be darker than the worries, which occupied her mind? What could be more terrifying than the thoughts that were screaming in her head?
She was walking without noticing anybody or anything. She was carried in another world. A world full of shades, pain and disappointment.
And who is she? READ MORE
The other night, as usual I trained with clients until late in the evening. I left the gym late and even though I woke up at 6 a.m. and I was already tired… I felt happy. I was walking in the cold evening, and I felt endless satisfaction. And you know what? This is how all my evenings look like. This night was not an exception!
I thought about people, who claim that the world is full of bad, cruel people. I thought about those who claim that there are no moral and values left. And then I kind of felt sorry about them… I felt sorry, that we are all surrounded by the same things, but everybody has the freedom to focus on different aspects.
When people go to the park, some will focus on the trash on the ground, next to the trash can and then they will spend an hour, talking about it and the lack of true values in society. And other, will just go, pick up the trash and throw it in the basket… then spend an hour admiring the beauty of nature.
The same park… different eyes, which are observing it.
I once again thought that with our own imagination about the world and what’s happening in it, we are the once who attract our reality. I remembered a line from Percey Shelly’s poem, where it was said “the souls of READ MORE
Sometimes we don’t utter a sound, but our eyes are screaming…
They say that the eyes hide the magic of people and that eyes are the window to our soul. Isn’t it strange? Sometimes we judge people according to what surrounds them, according to the material stuff they possess and driven by the sparkle around, we forget to gaze into their eyes… and notice that more often than not, people who at first sight seem to have it all, are actually vagrants… vagrants in their own soul…
I was thinking about pain… about the pain that soaks in your body and deforms each cell in it. About the pain, which passes through the body and then it never leaves it the same… sometimes pain weighs… it weighs so much, that it drags you down and it throws you in a world where salvation seems as an utopia…
And sometimes pain weighs so much, that it just breaks off… a burden, which was weighing on your shoulders, until today… when it was so unbearable, that it just slipped in your hands…
For a short moment you are thinking that you lost something, which was part of you… and then you realize that you were actually rescued. You were rescued from everything that was interfering with you being accompanied by the most important person in your life… the person who you did not allow yourself to be, until today! Because you were so hardly trying to shape yourself, according to the world around you.
What defines if the pain will manage to tangle you and drag you down… or if it will weigh so much, that it will finally break off and free you?
What a paradox! The same amount of pain READ MORE